The distance between people who want to be close is not measured in kilometres but in shared time. There is no need to be right next to each other, but to be together – share each other’s time. There are couples who are only centimetres away from each other, but they are two people who are miles apart and foreign to each other. On the other hand there are couples who keep each other in their hearts and minds, even though they live at opposite poles of the earth.
As I write in the book titled Because, one of the worst mistakes that cannot be remedied, is to not give time to those to whom we were important. Yes, WERE. Because when we don’t spend time with someone we teach them to spend time without us. Or basically: We teach them that spending time with someone else may be more pleasant than not spending time with us.
We cannot have everything we want in life. That is what is so beautiful and cruel about life. We have to clarify our priorities. What we devote our time to is our expression of what or who is our priority. The things we devote our time to, we give a part of our life to, which we will never get back. Therefore, if we decide not to spend our time with someone who considers us their priority, we are like a gardener who stops taking care of a garden. Even though he is important to the garden I have also had this happen to me. I lost a person who was closest to me and was always willing to support me. But I was not willing to do the same for him. I had so many MORE IMPORTANT things to do! “I’m sorry, I have too much work.”, “I’m sorry but I’m not in the mood for you today.” All this appeared to mean “I’m sorry but you aren’t my priority, not even today.”
It was only right that I lost this person. Because at least I learnt that he was not the one to lose something. He simply stopped having someone he was not important to in his life. It is useful when life takes people like this away from us. Because we then stop wasting time – we stop hurting for someone who is not hurting for us.
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