Are you having a bad week? You may not be having one right now, but it will happen at some point. Even though outside circumstances are sometimes imposed upon us, I suggest that the main difference between a good week and a bad week lies mostly with us and our ideas.
Why do I say this? Look around you. Anything not created by nature was created by people. Every achievement of civilisation was created by people, so at some point, it was only an idea in their minds, no more than a daydream or a “what if..?” that they nurtured. Ideas often grow up to become cities, rockets, works of art. Ideas can be so powerful that they become everything that you see around you.
We all need to be aware of the potency of our ideas because, in a very real way, the reality of our own lives is also constructed from how we think about them. The things that we believe all conspire and converge to create our viewpoint—the reality of our own life.
A person is at least four-fifths water. Water is a conductor (and these are similar words in Czech—“water” is “voda” and conductor is “vodič”). Because water conducts, ideas from the brain influence the whole of our body. This is why when we poison our water with the wrong ideas we are able to make ourselves sick.
So, even if we’ve had a bad week let’s not make it worse with a certain seven ideas. They are all harmful, and all capable of turning any of our weeks bad.
1. “I’m an idiot.”
No! Nobody ever fell from heaven knowing everything, and no wise person ever got that way without making mistakes. We learn from our mistakes.
Mistakes are the currency we pay to buy our experience. The Czech word “zážitek” translates into English as “an experience”. English uses the same expression for “zkušenost”, as in “being experienced”. English is wise here because it suggests that having experiences makes you experienced. You can think of all your accumulated mistakes as your library of wisdom. All those mistakes may make you wince at their memory but you cannot be wise without them.
As I emphasise in my articles, regardless of whether an experience is good or bad, it is beneficial, because it is a lesson that we need at that moment. If we didn’t need it, we wouldn’t have made the mistake.
Let’s learn to be grateful for our errors. They move us forward—even if it hurts us when they happen.
By the way, take a look at a baby some time. Chances are, it’s going to be crying, and perhaps on this occasion, because it is teething. Whatever hurts us in the moment, whatever makes us cry, and what we want rid of is, in reality, an engine of our growth.
2. “I’m not good enough.”
If we are to imagine the world and the whole population, let’s imagine it as a jigsaw of seven billion pieces, where every piece is a person. When we take any single piece out, the whole isn’t perfect and the piece alone is useless. Each needs the other, each fits the other perfectly in the vast mosaic of society.
Let’s accept two basic rules:
First of all: None of us is perfect.
Second of all: We are all different.
Why did nature organise it like this? So that we can’t get by without each other. Nobody in the world can do everything. Nobody in the world understands everything. Everyone is unique in their own way, and because of this, they are indispensable to the world. All of us have something to offer, though we may not always believe it.
We are all good enough to improve our skills and chip away at our shortcomings, but there is a limit to what we are able to accomplish at any given moment. That’s okay though because life doesn’t take place on only one day, it isn’t all nothing. It’s a marathon, not a sprint, so we are free to better ourselves over the long term. We are not what we were the day before yesterday, but we can be what we want to be tomorrow.
At every moment we are as good as we can be, and we experience exactly what we need to for our development.
3. “I’m worse than…” (insert name)
Let’s be honest about it: we can’t be like somebody else because we’re not them and never can be. We’re us.
This doesn’t make us worse than them, or better either. It just means that we are DIFFERENT.
It’s not what they can do with their hands tied behind their back that makes a person, but what they overcome. And in this regard, we are incomparable. This is because each of us overcomes specific internal barriers and they are different for all of us.
Why are we sometimes a lightning conductor for other people so they vent their rage on us? Why does it spoil our mood, not theirs?
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